Okay, I want to talk about girly toys.
I believe that choosing what toys your children have and play with are a big part of the parenting job. It is super hard when Christmas and birthdays roll around and your kids receive toys that they instantly LOVE, but that you would rather them not have. I feel like I've had lots of opinions in this area, but I've been a wimp about doing anything about it.
Some of you may be wondering what in the heck I'm talking about. You know, choosing toys for our kids that will be valuable to them in some way...teaching them a skill (an educational toy), giving them a constructive outlet (Legos, blocks, art supplies) or helps mold their thoughts/ideals about the kind of adult you want them to be (in Cait's case, I want to teach her to be a loving wife and nurturing mommy).
When I think of toys that I want Cait to spend her time playing with I think of "Little People", baby dolls, books, her little kitchen and tea set. This is all appropriate for a 2-3 year old. But I have been thinking about what is up ahead. I'm not thinking about these things because I want my children to have TONS of stuff. I'm thinking about what toys would be best for them because I don't want to have a house full of less-than desirable stuff that I wish I could throw out! When grandparents, aunts and uncles ask what they can get for our little girl as a gift, I want to be ready with some great ideas.
What do I have against Barbie?Is Barbie evil?...I think "no," but I still don't want my daughter to play with Barbie dolls. Why would I want my two year old to play with a doll modeled after an adult model? Is this what I want her to envy? Is this what I want her to use as her role model? Gosh, no! I want to ask, "What would be
best for my little girl to play with? What would be a toy that she could play with that would reinforce the values I want to instill in her?"
Something that I heard
John Piper say once when talking about his sons...they would sometimes ask,"What's WRONG with that, dad? What's WRONG with this movie or what's WRONG with this CD?" And his reply was, "You're asking the WRONG question son!"
The better question to ask is, "How will this help me treasure Christ more? How will it help me show that I do treasure Christ? How will it help me know Christ or display Christ? The Bible says,"Whatever you eat or drink (or let your kids play with), or whatever you do, do all to the glory of God." I Corinthians 10:31
So you're thinking, "You sure are making a big deal over a doll. Your two year old doesn't know the difference between Barbie and the mommy doll from her Little People." But what it really comes down to is, what do I want my daughter to value? What do I want her to think is beautiful? A model with long legs, big breasts, almost non-existent waist, gobs of make-up and teeny tiny clothes? Or do I want her to look at a mommy caring for her baby and making meals for her husband out of joy and think that THAT is lovely and desirable? This is what I teach her. This is what I strive to model for her. Why would I give her a doll that pointed her in a different direction?
There are so many things in this world that can potentially influence our children that we have NO control over. But why wouldn't we seize the things that we DO have control over, like their toys, as an opportunity to mold their little minds. I wish for Cait to look at the Proverbs 31 woman and pray to be like her, not Barbie and her pals in heir plastic convertible.
So What Do We Want to Teach our Little Girls?What does the Bible say that we should teach our daughters? In Titus chapter 2 it says to teach the younger women:
- How to love their future husband (through modeling primarily, I think),
- how to love and care for their children,
- to be pure ( I think modest dress and speech fall in this category as well)
- to be hard workers in the home
- and how to honor and submit to their husbands
So What Toys Are There That Can Reinforce What I Am Trying To Teach? - I was at Barnes and Noble today and I found the coolest toys for little girls. They had these kitchen accessory sets for girls ages 5-10 approximately. They had everything from a child's apron with matching oven mits to child sized rolling pins, measuring cups (these were accurate), and every shape and size of baking pan and muffin tin you could think of. These were not for their little play kitchen in their room. All of these pans were functional and can came with child-friendly recipes to make in those sized pans. I looked at Cait and sighed...she's 2, not 5! I want to bake with her and teach her to work in the kitchen and find joy in making a treat for someone (namely her daddy) to enjoy. I can't WAIT! I'm putting them on a future list for birthday number 5 so I don't forget about them.
- Baby dolls are always a favorite with little girls...and should be! It's in their nature to nurture and care for little ones.
- Craft supplies, coloring books, artistic outlets are always great for any child
- sewing cards, bead lacing
- A play kitchen with plates and play food for cooking and serving others
- Doll house and little dolls that make up a family
- pretending to be the "lady" in dire distress and call out for your brave knighted brother with a Ninja sword that he got from his last visit to the dentist, to save you! (Not sure how this reinforces what I want to teach her, except for the roles of a man and woman! HA!)
- Books...with careful consideration to the content, obviously!
What else? I'm asking because I want ideas? What did you play with as a child that you have precious memories of that you consider of great value?
You know what's coming tomorrow, don't you?...Boys Toys!